love makes the world go round

By Andrew Leigh

Would anyone seriously argue with the saying nobody’s perfect ? Of course not. And yet throughout the world millions of otherwise sane and intelligent people saddle themselves with a life principle that dooms them to frustration and constant disappointment – the desire to do things perfectly.

You could argue that setting such high standards is good for you, leading naturally to always being at your best. Many people do just that with proud statements like: oh yes, I’m a bit of a perfectionist – achieving anything but the absolute best is failure in my book.

But here’s the perfectionist paradox – as a perfectionist you can simultaneously hold feelings of moral superiority because of the high standards you’ve set yourself, and inferiority because you never meet those standards. Far from leading to happiness and achievement such attitudes are instead deeply negative.

Here are five reasons why:

1. It leads to a constant sense of failure.

Perfection is a vanishingly rare occurrence and perfectionists tend to focus on the flaws rather than the achievement. So no matter how well a task is done, there is always a sense of failure that it wasn’t done even better. An example is the golfer who hits a stunning shot to within a few feet of the pin but feels disappointed with himself for not getting it even closer.

2. It leads to procrastination and lowered output.

Put at its simplest – if your subconscious knows that starting on a project is going to be proof that you aren’t good enough, where’s the incentive to get moving? And when you are finally making progress it becomes difficult to finish until it really is the best it can be. Result: missed deadlines and a process of achievement full of terror and pain.

3. It leads to missed opportunities.

That’s because perfectionists will often be waiting for exactly the ‘right’ time to start – and guess what – now is never it. There’s the old joke about the motorist stopping to ask directions only to be told ‘oh, I wouldn’t start from here if I were you.’ It pretty much sums up the perfectionist attitude to opportunities.

4. It screws up your kids

If you want to transfer your own feelings of perfectionist inadequacy to your kids, then focus on the stuff they get wrong rather than what they do right. Imagine the pressure on a child knowing that only perfection is good enough.

5. It stops you learning from your mistakes

One side effect of a perfectionist attitude is a terror of making mistakes. Mistakes equate with failure to a perfectionist. So either you don’t acknowledge and learn from your mistakes or you simply don’t make them. But the only way not to make mistakes is to limit what you do – thus limiting yourself and your growth as a person. The perfectionist paradox strikes again.

Every perfectionist I’ve ever met believed that being a perfectionist was hard-wired into their personality – the only way they could ever be.

The good news is that it’s not true; you can Escape the Perfectionist Trap – and in so doing improve your self esteem, your belief in yourself and your ability to achieve. See the follow up article More than Perfect to find out how.

About the Author
Andrew Leigh helps people achieve better work & business performance, whole-life wellbeing & fulfilling new life directions.

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Relationships are fragile bonds that need to be built up and nurtured in order to keep them healthy and allow them to flourish. Unfortunately as most of us already know, break ups do happen, and when they do it can be very stressful and frustrating. If you are involved in a relationship that breaks up you may find yourself thinking that you want to get back at your ex but is this really the best step to take? One of the most influential ways that you can actually get back at your ex will not only put your ex in an interesting predicament, but it may also repair the relationship by showing your ex how important you were and are to them. So not only are these 5 tips to get back at your ex but they are also excellent methods for getting your ex back as well.
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1 Be strong. No one needs the needy, and this saying applies very well when it comes to broken up relationships. You need to stop clinging, begging or showing the behaviour of someone who is feeling desperate. Instead let your ex think that you have moved on just fine without them by acting strong and moving on. When you show that you’ve moved on, your ex will soon realize that they have not.
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2 Keep communication to the minimum. Closing the doors of communication may appear counterintuitive when your primary focus is to rekindle things, but this is one of the most important steps when getting back at your ex or getting your ex back. Take a break from your ex, cease any communication, and let him or her simmer for a little while without any contact. This will allow your ex to clear his or her mind and realize just how valuable your relationship was.
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3 You must try to be flexible. Do not demand that they move out, or pick their things up by a certain date. Be flexible, be a listener and a sympathizer. Your ex will be surprised when they see this side of you, and it may inspire them to try build the lines of communication that were broken when the breakup occurred.
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4 Start going out! This is no time for you to be alone. Call some of your friends and get yourself out of the house. Develop a social network and enjoy some entertainment in your life. This does not necessarily mean you need to date someone, or even pay attention to the opposite sex, but you do need to be getting out and enjoying your time with your friends. This will not only be therapeutic for you, but it will also help convince your ex that they lost a real gem.
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5 Simply try to be yourself. Remember there was a really good reason for why you and your ex had a relationship to begin with, so go back to being yourself and let your ex remember why they loved you in the first place. This renewed self-perception of your own self will surely rub off on your ex as well. For more information Click Here
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By Remez Sasson

People keep asking me about affirmations, and how to use them. Some of the questions are about affirmations for money. Here is a typical question: “I want to affirm for money. Can I use the affirmation, ‘I am making 100,000.- dollars every month’?

You can use any affirmation you want, but you have to believe that what you are affirming can happen, and be willing to do whatever it requires to make it come true.

To make your affirmation work you need to be practical, and use your common sense. You should also be willing to work and follow ideas and opportunities, and not just remain passive and wait for the money to come.

Affirmations, when repeated correctly, motivate, energize, and open your mind and eyes to see opportunities that otherwise you wouldn’t have seen. It is not enough just to affirm. You also need to take action, and take advantage of the opportunities that come your way.

If you choose to repeat the above mentioned affirmation, ask yourself whether you are feeling comfortable with this amount of money. Think whether you can handle it. Think whether you are willing to make changes in your life, which you might be required to do to make the affirmation come true.

More than often, success is a gradual process, one thing leading to another. When you affirm for money, you might be offered a better job, an additional job, or offered to do something in exchange for money. Think well, before saying, “No, I won’t take this offer, because I am affirming for a greater amount of money”. Small amounts of money add to bigger amounts. If you just wait for the big amount it means that you are either impractical, lazy, or want to get something without giving anything in return, such as service, time or effort.

Remember, even small opportunities can lead to greater opportunities. Don’t neutralize the power that you create through the affirmations, by remaining passive and waiting for the money to drop on your head from the sky, or waiting to win the lottery.

Sometimes, there is a subconscious inner resistance, which can sabotage the affirmation, so it is a good idea to analyze what you think and feel about the amount of money. Often, it is more practical to start with smaller amounts, and as you gain confidence and success, you can move to larger amounts.

Also, consider whether you want money, or the things money can buy. You may use affirmations for money, but you may also use affirmations to get the object/s the money can buy. For some people, affirming for what they really want might work better, than affirming for money.

Affirmations can be used not just for money or possessions, but also for creating positive habits, improving your life, and for creating success in any area of your life.

You can find many affirmations for money and for everything else, including full instructions about using affirmations, in my book, Affirmations Words of Power.

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By Remez Sasson

Can you improve your life?

Can you achieve success?

Do all the books, courses, webinars and workshops on self-improvement, personal growth and on success really help?

Yes, they do help, but not always, and not all people benefit from them equally.

Do you spend a lot of money on books courses and workshops, but nothing changes in your life, nothing improves in your life?

So why is that?

Let me ask you, do you really and truly want to make changes in your life?

Would you do anything to achieve the success you want?

Would you invest time and money in study, research and the necessary actions to improve your life or achieve your dreams?

• Most people have dreams, but back in their mind, deep in their subconscious mind, they do not really want their dreams to come true. They are afraid of the changes in their life that the achievement of their dream might lead to, and in a subconscious way resist the changes, postpone them or refuse to take action.
• There are people who feel they do not deserve to better their life.
• Other people are deep in negative thinking.
• People love the familiar and afraid of the new.
• People have dreams, but are afraid to follow their dreams.

Do you sometimes say you wish you had millions of dollars in your bank account? This is a very pleasant thought, but how are you going to get this money? What are the chances that you win the lottery or inherit this amount of money? How would gain this money?

Would affirmations and visualization bring this money? If you are persistent with these techniques, and do them right, sooner or later an opportunity might pop up. The question asked is, would you recognize the opportunity? Would you enter the door that was opened? Are you really ready to go all the way?

Suppose you start a business, are you willing to dedicate your time and energy, day after day, to make your business grow? Are you willing to make the necessary sacrifices that go with this kind of lifestyle? Some people love this and make a lot of money, but not all people.

Most people want to improve their life to a certain extent, sometimes only in small matters, anything more can seem threatening and intimidating.

So, to conclude, can you improve your life?

Yes you can, but:

1. You need to know exactly what you want.
2. You need to be willing to do things, not just dream and wait for things to happen.
3. Be willing to give your energy and time.
4. Be willing to change your lifestyle.
5. Overcome the fear of change.
6. Act, don’t only dream, and if there are problems, difficulties or obstacles, don’t give up.

There is one more thing I would like to say. Quite often, after reading a book about the law of attraction, affirmations, visualization, or any self improvement technique, people want to read another book, and then another one, participate in another workshop, always telling themselves that after the next book or workshop they are going to use what they learned, but this time never comes. They enjoy the process of reading, learning collecting knowledge, but they never act. They never use what they learned. This can become a habit, and consequently they never do anything to improve their life.

You may go on reading and participating in workshops if you wish, but you have to start using what you learned, otherwise you will be always chasing after the next book, workshop or fad, but never doing anything to really improve your life.

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Excerpt from The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D. Wattles

Thought is the creative power or the impelling force which causes the creative power to act. Thinking in a certain way will bring riches to you, but you must not rely upon thought alone, paying no attention to personal action. That is the rock upon which many otherwise scientific thinkers meet shipwreck – the failure to connect thought with personal action.

We have not yet reached the stage of development, even supposing such a stage to be possible, in which a person can create directly from formless substance without nature’s processes or the work of human hands. A person must not only think, but his personal action must supplement his thought. By thought you can cause the gold in the hearts of the mountains to be impelled toward you, but it will not mine itself, refine itself, coin itself into double eagles, and come rolling along the roads, seeking its way into your pocket.

Under the impelling power of the supreme spirit, people’s affairs will be so ordered that someone will be led to mine the gold for you. Other people’s business transactions will be so directed that the gold will be brought toward you. And you must so arrange your own business affairs that you may be able to receive it when it comes to you. Your thought makes all things, animate and inanimate, work to bring you what you want, but your personal activity must be such that you can rightly receive what you want when it reaches you. You are not to take it as charity, nor to steal it. You must give every man more in use value than he gives you in cash value.

The scientific use of thought consists in forming a clear and distinct mental image of what you want, in holding fast to your purpose to get what you want, and in realizing with grateful faith that you do get what you want.

Your faith and purpose positively impress your vision upon formless substance, which has the same desire for more life that you have, and this vision, received from you, sets all the creative forces at work in and through their regular channels of action, but directed toward you.

It is not your part to guide or supervise the creative process. All you have to do with that is to retain your vision, stick to your purpose, and maintain your faith and gratitude.

But you must act in a certain way, so that you can appropriate what is yours when it comes to you and so that you can meet the things you have in your picture and put them in their proper places as they arrive.

You can really see the truth of this. When things reach you, they will be in the hands of others, who will ask an equivalent for them. And you can only get what is yours by giving the other person what is rightfully his.

Your pocketbook is not going to be transformed into a Fortunata’s purse, which shall be always full of money without effort on your part.

This is the crucial point in the science of getting rich – right here, where thought and personal action must be combined. There are very many people who, consciously or unconsciously, set the creative forces in action by the strength and persistence of their desires, but who remain poor because they do not provide for the reception of the thing they want when it comes.

By thought, the thing you want is brought to you. By action, you receive it.

Whatever your action is to be, it is evident that you must act NOW. You cannot act in the past, and it is essential to the clearness of your mental vision that you dismiss the past from your mind. You cannot act in the future, for the future is not here yet. And you cannot tell how you will want to act in any future contingency until that contingency has arrived.

Because you are not in the right business or the right environment now, do not think that you must postpone action until you get into the right business or environment. And do not spend time in the present taking thought as to the best course in possible future emergencies; have faith in your ability to meet any emergency when it arrives.

If you act in the present with your mind on the future, your present action will be with a divided mind, and will not be effective.

Put your whole mind into present action.

Do not give your creative impulse to original substance, and then sit down and wait for results. If you do, you will never get them. Act now. There is never any time but now, and there never will be any time but now. If you are ever to begin to make ready for the reception of what you want, you must begin NOW.

And your action, whatever it is, must most likely be in your present business or employment, and must be upon the persons and things in your present environment.

Hold with faith and purpose the vision of yourself in the better environment, but act upon your present environment with all your heart, and with all your strength, and with all your mind. Do not spend any time in day dreaming or castle building; hold to the one vision of what you want, and act NOW.

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By Lisa Rickwood

What do Valentine’s Day, Christmas, dating, dinner and a movie, marriage and couples have in common? Rituals. A ritual is defined as ‘any method of doing something in which the details are always faithfully repeated.’ To relate this to your life, rituals include: the time you wake up, how your brush your teeth, the route you take to work – you get the idea.

Rituals give life meaning and help us celebrate milestones in our lives. They offer security, stability and routine and a sense of calmness to an otherwise chaotic existence. Rituals date back thousands of years with the ancient Egyptians. Theirs was a culture seeped in traditions. Eating, drinking, bathing, hunting and burying the dead were a succession of rituals.

Over centuries, mankind lost the importance of rites. However, many of us in the 21st century are reconsidering traditions and adding them to our lives as we desperately seek meaning during this increasingly shallow and disconnected time.

If you want to relax, enjoy your life and feel more connected to others, consider adding rituals to your life.

SEVEN RITUALS TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE AND BUSINESS:

1. Create a morning ritual to help you wake up refreshed and ready to tackle your day. You might get up a few minutes early to: read, walk your dog, jog, play an instrument, write, do yoga – it doesn’t matter, just claim this time as your own. That way you have time for yourself and don’t feel resentful if your day is hectic.

2. When you’re at work, create a ritual to start your day. This might include: having a coffee at your desk, checking your PDA for appointments, not answering phonecalls for 15 minutes while you read and respond to urgent emails. You might also: set an agenda for the day, plan goals for the week…the list is endless.

3. At work, find ways to meet colleagues and socialize during a lunch hour instead of running a million errands. Also, if you’re challenged and need help, you’ll have some friends that can work with you. If you work alone, join a network group that is conveniently located near you, cost efficient and helps you build your business. Make it a ritual to attend the meetings and meet new people and create a ritual to record new contacts.

4. Create time saving rituals for work. For example, only check email three times a day, organize your files, file away unused papers as soon as possible; create ‘time boundaries’ where you can’t be interrupted. Close the door, let the message machine take a call, get up and take mini breaks every 90 minutes (for productivity).

5. At the end of a busy week, designate a night as Movie or board game night with friends or family. If being at home doesn’t excite you, you could sign up for sports and get out your weekly frustrations. The key is to make time for something special once you complete work; this offers you a buffer to help ease you through a hectic week as you have something to look forward to doing.

6. Create home rituals to ease into your time off. These rituals may include chores as you play ‘catch-up’ on errands. Be sure to add play to your list. Include ways to decompress, times to exercise, time with your partner, friends, family and time alone.

7. Create self-care rituals that put your needs first. If you think this is selfish, consider the rules on airplanes. Parents have access to oxygen masks before their children so they can care for their family in the event of an emergency. You’re no good to anyone if you’re exhausted, resentful or angry because you don’t have time for yourself. For example, get enough rest, make time for things you enjoy such as: walking, yoga, working out at the gym, playing an instrument, biking, reading, writing…whatever makes you happy.

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About the Author
Lisa Rickwood, “Small Biz Stress Buster,” is a small business coach, visual artist and author of Escape The Pace: 100 Fun And Easy Ways To Slow Down And Enjoy Your Life and co-author of Power & Soul: 42 Successful Entrepreneurs Share their Secrets for Creating the Business and Life of Their Dreams. She helps small business owners ‘master stress for professional and personal success.’ Get your FREE e-book, 5 Critical Actions That Hurt Your Business and Add Stress to Your Life…and How to Escape Them by visiting: http://www.escapethepace.com

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There are certain things we can change in our life, but there are also things that we cannot change. If we keep worrying about them we lose our peace, but if we accept them, they stop being important, and we stop worrying about them. What we cannot change and cannot influence no matter what, should not be of concern to us.

People tend to focus and think about things which they have no control over. Why worry about something that worry will not change? Why care about what other people think of us, when we are not even sure what they are thinking about? Why worry about the weather, if we cannot change it? Why worry and feel concerned about other people actions, about which we have no control?

Learn to accept what cannot be changed and you will experience inner peace. I am not telling you to be passive and stop acting in the world. Change what you can. Improve what you can. This will improve your life and improve how you feel, but learn to accept people, circumstances and situations that are beyond your control.

Sometimes, acceptance is temporary, until you know more, learn more and reach a stage, where you can change and improve certain situations that you could do nothing about before.

Once you open mind to acceptance, and start accepting what you cannot change, you automatically relieve yourself of much stress, anxiety and worry. Remember, acceptance leads to inner peace, and inner peace is real freedom and to happiness.

If you thought that inner peace is a state of weakness and passivity you are wrong! You may lead normal life, like everyone else, but enjoy a state of inner peace and inner strength that no external conditions can disturb.

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The Law of attraction responds to what you are co-creating with your choice of friends and associates It can be explained in a scientific way through the revelations of Quantum Physics. Electrons, neutrons, and protons are not the smallest units of matter, but in fact these break down in to even smaller units called crazy things like ‘quarks’.
This law may seem like some new age fluff but believe it or not, there is scientific proof that supports its existence. The law of attraction is not a new idea. It has always been here from ancient times, and people have always used it . It is not a religious or spiritual question; it is merely a query into your priorities

If you are spending your time thinking about all of the wonderful things you can be happy about – the universe will naturally respond to that vibration and bring you even more .

The law of attraction is not a method for getting rich quickly, without doing anything. It requires mental work, focus and visualization, If you focus on wonderful, positive things in life, you’ll attract more wonderful, positive things. If you focus on how you can be generous and give to others, you’ll attract back generosity and giving from others. On the other hand if we concentrate on negative thoughts, we attract negative people, actions, and consequences to us. We live in a thinking-based universe, thus all things come from thought.

Learning the Law of Attraction can be challenging at times because we get stuck in our old habits of thought no matter how badly we want to change them. But if we understand the basics then law of attraction becomes easy.

Once you fully grasp the techniques and become confident using them, you’ll be empowered to move your life in the direction that you want ,and you will have the power and self-assurance to deal with all your problems and challenges if and when they come up.
The realization that you can transform your life and create success brings excitement and hope, but these feelings can change into disappointment and frustration, if you don’t know what to do next.

Because you can not see or touch the law of attraction, your logical mind can easily question it’s existence. Remove all of your self-limiting beliefs so that the Law of Attraction will work for you This brings to mind the well-known phrase, “there is nothing new under the sun.

One of the most important steps in consciously using the Law of Attraction is learning to change our expectations Disease is held in the body by thought, by observation of the illness, and by the attention given to the illness. If you are feeling a little unwell, don’t talk about it. Don’t dwell on the negative. If you have excess time on your hands take up a hobbly like golf( for more information Click Here or learning to speak Spanish
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“Focusing on perfect health” is something we can all do within ourselves, despite what may be happening on the outside. The essence of the Law of Attraction involves three simple steps: ask, believe, and receive.

When you don’t have a lot of money, spending it seems like a reckless move. Most of us have a natural reaction to lack; we hang onto what we have a little tighter. But giving brings back abundance.

Joyfully accept life on life’s terms to create more peace at home and in the world.
By becoming conscious of our thoughts, feelings, intentions and beliefs, we are more able to take deliberate control of our future.

There are easy, effective meditation techniques that are in alignment with the law of attraction concept. Remember that Law of attraction is activated by your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions. It is working every second of every day. Just because we can’t see it does not mean it has stopped working. We cannot see fresh air but we know that we breathe it every minute of every day.
It is not a method for getting rich quickly, without doing anything.

Law of attraction is actually a subset of the Law of Vibration. It has an inclusive nature. It will simply magnetize everything that you are asking for. It has attracted a lot of attention in recent years.

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Are you feeling like everything you do pushes your ex away further? Is this describing your situation to a tee? Are you asking “What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back” at every turn? Here are some tips that will greatly improve your chances of getting back together with your ex boyfriend.

Obviously right now you are serious about saving or rekindling your relationship, which is what led you to this article in the first place. But if you are feeling overly anxious to get your ex back, you may be behaving in the wrong way, causing your ex to pull away naturally. It is human nature in general to resist this kind of pressure. Struggling against human nature is completely pointless, and it will only make matters worse.

Are you calling your ex too much, constantly writing him e-mails or text messaging him? Are you trying to make him feel sorry for you? If you are doing these things, stop! If you are asking yourself ” What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back”, then you need to stop doing these things right now.

So What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back? Follow this strategy instead.

You are going to need to take a completely fresh approach. Begin by breaking contact off for a while, doing your own thing. During this time where there is no communication between you and your ex boyfriend, you can focus on ways that you can improve your own personal life, rather than focusing on the relationship issues at hand. This is going to be a challenging time, and it is going to require discipline to prevent you from returning to your old ways.

During this time, your ex is going to experience a shift in how he feels about you, since you will no longer be pursuing him. You may become mysterious to him in some ways, because he is not sure what you are doing or feeling. This is actually something that can work in your favor. Now your ex is in a position to actually miss you, which is not possible when you are smothering him.

You must remember that the key to this strategy and repairing a break up is to work with human nature rather than attempting to work against it. If you are wondering ” What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back”, now you should have a fairly basic understanding on how common mistakes can be avoided. Once you implement this basic strategy you can restore a balance and allow your ex to remember why he loved you in the first place.

Just keep yourself grounded and avoid smothering him. Make yourself appear mysterious and he will be reminded why he loved you in the first place. Play hard to get (don’t over do it) and let him make the first move, and you will come out on top. And then you will stop asking “What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back” Click Here For more information
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If I allow bitterness and resentment to fester inside, it will make my relationships guarded and unsatisfying. The more I close down to others, the more I become a stranger to myself. By letting go of sorrow and negativity, I can keep my nature open and loving. Remaining open to life, with its constant adventures and opportunities to grow, is the only way to reach my full potential.
~ Brahma